No excuses. There's a song that comes to mind,,,every generation blames the one before... We could all blames someone. I don't believe in the theory that if you were abused your going to abuse. If I wanted to spend my life feeling sorry for my self, I could tell my story. If I wanted to draw attention, I could repeat the story and beat my kid, (kind of hard since he towers over me and out weighs me), but my point is: If you want to improve the situation that you have had tons of time to think about, you break the cycle, if you want to stay stuck and get attention you use blame and repeat to get attention. It's life and choices and free will to do what you believe is right. Everybody has choices, it's what you want from your life that determines what choice you make.