my in laws are exactly the same way!! They thought we were totally immoral to have babies first and that our kids would be lost because we didn't follow "God's Plan". They said our lives would be cursed until we did as we were supposed to. I think it's a load of crap!! My relationship with my maker is between me and him...nobody else. And how dare anyone think that they are above me, that their way of living is in any way more "Godly". I don't believe God in any form would condone that sort of snobery!