I wanted to comment to heather. I am a wedding photographer and I met with a bride earlier today. She told me that the pastor of her own church that she attends will not marry her and her fiance. I have no idea what the reason is that he won't but I found it very odd. I know you said you got married in tahoe but that the wedding wasn't recognized because you didn't get married in a church setting. Its funny how a church can control a wedding huh? It seems like if you are getting married for the right reasons what difference does it make. -whitney