HI: Yes, in most families today both parents have to work to provide a decent life for the family. I think that although both a man and women work the same hours and make the same money even or the woman makes more, that the bulk of the household, and childcare duties end up being relegated in one way or another to the woman. This isn't fair by any means. Our society seems to say in one way that this isn't fair but that it's still accepted? I think that men ought to stand up and take their fair share and that woman ought to do their fair share. I don't think it's right that woman are expected to do more than men and that society isn't downright completely pissed off about this. I think that if men were required to work the same hours as their wives and made the same amount and had to take care of the bulk of the household and childcare duties that they wouldn't necessarily do it. they try to talk or guilt a woman in their life to do it or hire a cook, housekeeper, etc. to take care of all the "domestic" duties. Some way or another a man may tend to justify their scene no matter what it may be and men won't speak out against the inequalities woman experience when they hold a full time job at the office and then hold a full time job at home. Men benefit more than woman in this construct and don't really want it to change because then they'd have to do their fair share. Our text mentioned this, that men benefit more from the way our society is constructed and I think that often this is true.
This needs to change. People need to speak out against these structures and change them. Some people don't because they're too busy. Some people don't because they are more reserved and not as outspoken, some don't because they don't like conflict and fighting or ever saying a word against anything, some like peace and harmony and aren't willing to shake things up even to make things better. Barring going into extreme or any negative spirals, cynical, pessimistic, doomsday, depressions, frustrations, dramas, tramas, abuses, and out of control angers, violences, bitternesses, resentments, regrets, and any other hard, harsh ways. These are detrimental, harmful, toxic, poisonous ways to be just as these unfair structures are.
I think that people have the responsibility to find good positive, honest, effective, happy, loving, meaningful ways to change out of date unfair structures. I don't like being oppressed, repressed, depressed, inequalities, and injustices. I love to find good ways to change this for the better in my life.
If family responsibilities were shared evenlya nd happily equally and mutually by both partners, then both partners by working together well, would accomplish things in half the time without the heartache, but with piece of mind, love and respect. This attitude generated will effect both partners well, everyone they know, their kids and pets. The time saved by working together well in healthy, mature, happy, respectful ways will free parents up to have more time to spend with their kids. More good quality time to spend enjoying thier kids together with good feelings and good times;attitudes all around. To spend the needed amounts of quality time to spend with their children which they love, adore, and cherish!
Thanks, Shaunasi